I have a post coming up on toxic people and why you need to cut them out of your life. It took me years to realize that several people in my own life fit into this category. They were negative, sarcastic, downers, complainers, jealous, and I could go on and on (wait for the post). I ultimately convinced myself that they were all very unhappy people and being negative was their way of trying to pull others into their fold.
We all know negative people – glass
of wine half empty people. When we moved to Milan, Italy with two young children, the challenges and stress of integrating in a foreign country were higher than you can imagine. My husband was quite the glass of wine half-empty kind of guy because it was a lot on his shoulders. But probably one of the biggest compliments he’s given me in our 25 years of marriage, is one day I overheard him telling someone how my positive outlook on living overseas, and my excitement at this new adventure, made it so much easier on him. Perhaps it’s the MomUncorked in me, but I’m generally a glass of wine half full kind of person.
You’ve probably heard that positive thinking also plays a key role in health, and especially in overcoming disease. The Huffington Post recently published this article on 5 Ways Positive Thinking Can Transform Your Health. The article explains how thinking more positively can impact our heart, nervous system, inflammation and immune system.
Negative thinking is a choice. I took a class in college called “The Art of Persuasion” and while I don’t remember a lot of things from college, I do remember one student’s persuasive speech to the rest of our class. That was more than 30 years ago and it’s still something I do from time to time to change my way of thinking. Put a rubber band around your wrist. Every time you catch yourself thinking negatively about a person or situation, snap the band. It will serve as a painful reminder to change your way of thinking to a more positive one.